Basic Rights in
a Relationship
This list is adapted from the excellent book, The Verbally
Abusive Relationship. It applies to all kinds of relationships,
not just the romantic kind.
The right to goodwill from the
other.
The right to emotional support.
The right to be heard by the
other and to be responded to with courtesy.
The right to have your own view,
even if your mate has a different view.
The right to have your feelings
and experience acknowledged as real.
The right to receive a sincere
apology for any jokes or comments you find offensive.
The right to clear and informative
answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business.
The right to live free from accusation
and blame.
The right to live free from criticism
and judgment.
The right to have your work and
your interests spoken of with respect.
The right to encouragement.
The right to live free from emotional
and physical threat.
The right to live free from angry
outbursts and rage.
The right to be called by no
name that devalues you.
The right to be respectfully
asked rather than ordered.
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